How to worry less and live more?

Worrying happens because of fear. Fear for the unknown and fear of not controlling what is gonna happen. Why is it so difficult to stop?

I think we all have tried to lie in bed, trying to sleep, but without any luck because of the 1000 thoughts running through our minds. Analyzing every little detail about what happened yesterday, what we could have done different and what the fuck there is gonna happen tomorrow. Why did I do that? Why did't I say that? What if this happens? Blablabla..

Telling yourself to stop worrying is not going to work, maybe for a short time, but then it's going to pop into your head again. If you want, you can test it yourself by closing your eyes and think about a purple alien. Once you can see it in your mind, stop to think about it. No matter what you are doing for the next 60 seconds, DONT think about purple aliens. ;) How did it work?

When you try to stop worrying, you pay extra attention to the thought you are trying to avoid. Resistance makes stronger, so don't try to get rid of a thought but instead give yourself permission to have it. I always say "Treat your thoughts like your children." What do I mean by that? If your child is sad or angry, you don't tell them to shut up? But listen and give them advise there empower them.

"How are you?" "I'm fine" Nooooo, you are definitely not fine.

To stop worrying we have to be honest with ourselves. There was a time were I was lying to myself by suppressing my emotions.

If you feel happy, experience the happiness, if we feel angry, experience the anger and if you want to cry, cry.

If you afraid of what other people are thinking about how you feel? Remind yourself that if they judge how you are feeling, they aren't meant to be in your life. The day you aren't afraid to put yourself out there, you become powerful!

Ask yourself if your problem really is that big? Is it really worth you time to care about that one tiny problem? There are people in other countries who are living a much harder life that you do. Put your phone down, open your eyes, open your ears, breathe, go outside, talk to people and see how other people are living.

What really helped me to live in the present moment was to start meditating (which I'm going to make a post about another day) Meditation is not about sitting in a lotus pose making weird noises. It's all about tapping in to the present moment, being aware of what you hearing, sensing, seing thinking, feeling and breathing.

Ask yourself what you can you do to solve the problem. If you can do something about your problem take action and get it fixed, cause thinking is not going to change anything.Try to see the big picture by seeing things from different perspectives.

Your boyfriend is breaking up with you. You feel hurt, its understandable but ask yourself "What did I learn from our relationship?" Maybe he showed you how you want to be treated, maybe you want someone who has more time for you, maybe you need time to be yourself, maybe he just isn't right for you and someone so much better for you is waiting for you out there. Build your own supportsystem by thinking thoughts there are serving you!

We have to realize that we can't always control what is going to happen in our lives.

Everytime I want to control something I can't do anything about, this quote always comes to my mind "We can't always control what is happening, but we can control how we react to it." Trusting that universe works in my favor and knowing everything is going to fall in to place, makes me feel calm and empowered.

Be your own best friend! There is nobody like you!

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