How to stop worrying about what other people think of you?

It's human nature to care in one form another about what other people are thinking about us. SPECIALLY when it's a friend, family member or someone else close to us.

There is a big diffenrence between caring and worrying about other peoples opinion about you and your choices.

When you care you respect other peoples way of seeing things by considering their view and then after doing things in your way. When you are worrying about other peoples opinon, you start doubting your own decision by pushing it away and let others peoples opinion control you.

A lot of people say "I DON'T CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE THINKING" which is a lie. Resistance makes stronger and dineying makes you worry so much more. When you do acknowledge that you care about what other people are thinking, it now becomes easier to take the next step, which is to take your own decision.

People are not thinking so much about you as you think. People don't have time to think about you and your choices all the time, they are busy with their own lives. Maybe they have some thoughts about you and that it totally okay? You also have have thoughts about somebody sometimes, but for how long?? Not to the end you die. Let people think, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Their thoughts is none of your business. They can think whatever they want, like you can think whatever you want.

Have you ever met a person where you formed this massive opinion about who you thought they were? And then you started to get to know them and realized that they weren't like that at all.

The people who form the most opinions about us, is the people who know us the least. When you start to know people, you start to understand and see them as who they really are.

We all have the people in our lives who tells us what to do and sometimes holding us back. Friends, partner, family (specially parents)! "You can't trust that man!""Dont date her" "Study there" "Get a job there" "Don't go there" Why do they do that? Because they reject their own experiences and fears into you. They don't want you to go through the same as they or somebody else they know did! Their opinion about what you are doing are coming from some unresolved issues from their own lifes and they are vicariously trying to live through you.

But also remind to ask yourself "Would I be where I am today without them?" They are here to make us learn that people can say whatever they want and that WE have the responsibility of our lives.

How people see you is totally different and is changing all the time. We all change our opinions. Their opinion about you has nothing to with you, but everything to do with them.

How they see you and your choices depends on their expectations and life experiences and is not the whole truth.

When you are conferrable in your own skin you learn to embrace peoples opinions.

Embrace your YOU because no matter how hard you try, you can't make everybody happy.

Remind yourself that there is only one unique you and when you let other peoples thoughts control you, you lose your individuality.

Love yourself when nobody does, cause you are going to live with you your whole life!

Xoxo

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