How to stop seeking after attention?
Naturally human being are craving attention. We all need social interactions, positive feedback, validation and we want to make other people happy. We do something for other people sometimes because we all subconsciously want to be loved.
There is nothing wrong with craving attention, but where it becomes a problem is when other peoples opinion of you matter more than your own opinion of yourself. When you chose a crop top you don't feel confutable in at all, only because you think that your crush would love it. Later on the night if he doesn't blink or whistles of you, your night is ruined.
There is a big difference between wanting attention for something you do for yourself and doing something just because you really want people to pay attention to you.
We live in a generation of Instagram, selfies, likes and followers. A big scene where a lot people post pictures just to get likes and followers. If the pictures doesn't get enough likes.. Delete, delete, delete! At my friends house I met this beautiful girl who got home with such a big delicious cake and I was like "It looks so good, is it your birthday or what are you celebrating?" And she was like "I'm not gonna eat it, I just bought it to take Instagram pictures." You see? It's a big joke. Me and my friend ended up eating that cake after she was done with her photoshoot, haha.
We need to do more for ourselves and give ourself more love and attention.
But how do I give myself more attention? What makes you happy? Do more of that! Trust your intuition cause if you don't, you will suffer. It doesn't matter what you friend and family say, if you go against yourself and you beliefs, you will suffer.
Instead of ignoring yourself, you have to start realizing that it's impossible to make everybody happy. Create a better relationship with yourself by going to places or doing things where you feel most powerful.
Where do you feel most powerful? I go out to nature, dance, read a book, meditate, write, talk and help other people. All of it is self care which builds up my own trust and confidence.
What is your proudest moments? Remind yourself that time you won your schools talent competition or that time you gave a homeless man food. We all did something the made us feel good in the present moment and we have to credit ourselves for it.
The more you want other people to pay attention to you, the more they don't. People want authenticity. As soon as you start doing things for yourself, making your life feel like a fairytale, the more people want to be apart of it. You will become a magnet and attract so much attention and people will seek after your attention without doing anything!
People (exept your parents) aren't going to care about you, if you dont care about yourself. You have to put yourself first and fill up you own cup, before giving to somebody else!
So you don't have to stop craving after attention but give yourself more affection.
Focus on what you want out of your life. Focus on what makes you most happy.
How you see yourself is most important.
Xoxo
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